Over the past year, I’ve started to realize just how alone I am. I don’t have that village. I don’t have those girls’ nights out as most women have. In fact, I barely have anyone outside of my husband, kids, and my parents to really talk to. It has led me to be awkward and kind of scared to go off and do some things on my own. But what are some ways to be okay with being alone?
This one is a hard one for me. Mostly because I don’t do many things alone outside of my husband. I know he probably gets tired of me dragging him around to different places, but it’s hard to really find true friendships. I don’t know how many times I’ve had someone tell me that they care and they want to be friends but then leave me out. This is even after I’ve told them that I feel left out.
So right now, for the time being, I’m not going to focus at all on trying to make friends. This is the time I really need to focus on myself, and that’s what you should do too!
Tips on how to be okay with being alone
- Stay off social media
I’ve started noticing that the more I’m on social media, the more I start to compare, compare, compare. It has become an addiction for me. I’m not sure if it has for you or not. Once I post something, I start getting on frequently to check if anyone has interacted with it at all. It becomes this never-ending cycle. Being on there leads to constant comparison, and I feel like all of us need to get off of it for the time being. It’s hard, though, and I know it. I’ve tried multiple times to get off of it.
2. Have quiet time
I’m sure this is going to be hard for a lot of us. What this means is to give your mind time to actually wonder. Don’t try to preoccupy yourself. I know this will be hard for me, though, because my mind doesn’t seem to shut up if I don’t find something to preoccupy it with.
3. Workout
Honestly, this is something that I would rather do alone anyway. I don’t like working out with other people unless we’re just walking or something. But if it requires a lot of physical movement, then by myself it is. I lose my breath really easy and I don’t feel like I’m comfortable with that many people. But working out is a great solitary activity, and you can do it in the comfort of your own home.
4. Find a hobby
This is a great thing to do, and there are SO many solitary hobbies out there. If you’re looking for something physical, then there’s skating, running, and riding your bike. There are a lot of artsy hobbies out there too, and most of them are going to be solitary type of hobbies.
But why do you need to find a hobby? This keeps your mind off of things when it’s in a bit of disarray. Crocheting and writing have actually helped me out quite a bit! I’m sure you will find your thing soon.
Conclusion on anxiety, awkwardness, and doing things by yourself
I get it. Being alone can sometimes be lonely and can affect your mental health. I’ve been there. In fact, I’m there right now in this moment. But there are a multitude of ways to be okay with being alone. In some ways, I feel like it’s often better to go off and do things alone anyway. At least this way, you don’t have to constantly reschedule things or feel like you’re always having to postpone things rather than living your life. On top of that, this allows you to take up space rather than curling into yourself!
Let me know in the comments some of your tips on how to be okay with being alone!