I have been wanting to write a post about this for a while. This is a hard one for me to write out because I hate admitting that I’m emotionally disconnected from people. Unfortunately, this is something that I have been kind of feeling for a while now.
I don’t feel like I’m awkward (even though I do have those moments). Plus, I feel as if I’m able to keep the conversations going. At least I’m able to keep a conversation going with someone who is pretty talkative. If they are awkward then I tend to struggle. That’s mostly because I’m introverted so I’m not naturally a talkative person.
Maybe I’m kind of oblivious to not being awkward but I always felt like that wasn’t much of the problem. I tend to keep a part of myself kind of hidden just so I don’t seem weird. With that being said I feel like when I’m around other people I have to keep myself confined in a way. Hopefully, this isn’t just a me thing.
What does it mean to be emotionally disconnected?
I think this is going to mean something a little different to just about everyone, but I can tell you what it means to me.
Being emotionally disconnected from people for me is feeling as if I can’t connect with people. We can talk about just about everything until we are blue in the face and I still won’t feel as if I connect with them.
I keep myself at a distance and it stays that way. I’ve also noticed with myself is that no matter how many times I hang out with them I still wind up keeping myself at a distance. Maybe it’s because I don’t want to get hurt since that has happened so many times in the past.
Maybe it’s just because I keep myself plugged into social media so by this point that connection just doesn’t come so easy.
What is emotional connection?
Emotional connection is another thing that I feel like everyone is going to have a different viewpoint as well.
So, to me having an emotional connection with someone is being able to be whoever you are around them. You feel as if you can talk to them about just about everything. They are your best friend and they don’t judge you for the things that you like.
To me when I’ve had a strong connection to someone I have felt compelled by them. It’s as if there’s a string attached to me and I’m being drawn to them.
This could just be that maybe I don’t get out a whole lot. Maybe you don’t either. But I do know that staying home a lot can make that a little bit harder. I swear being introverted comes with more problems than it’s worth.
How to feel emotionally connected?
I know a lot of you may not be too happy about this and I know I’m not too happy about it either when it comes to working on this. But staying open to people would help out a lot and actually managing to get yourself out there a little more. Finding clubs or classes in areas that you like tends to help out a lot with adults.
Being yourself and showing genuine interest in what they are talking about helps out a lot. Coming from experience I know that putting on a “mask” doesn’t help the situation and gets tiring after a while. I know being nervous doesn’t help the situation either, but the more you get yourself out there the more you will get used to it. There is a reason why there are things called exposure therapy out there to help people out with whatever they are going through.
Why am I emotionally detached?
Being emotionally detached could happen for a multitude of reasons. I know quite a few of you have probably gone through trauma when it comes to making friends. Maybe you were or still are being bullied about the way that you are.
Maybe you are introverted like I am. I know I have kept myself holed up in my house quite often because I didn’t want to get out and around people. Don’t even get me started on getting out in big crowds.
Being emotionally detached could have a lot to do with being glued to your phone. I know I’m guilty about this. Now that I think about it, before phones became a huge part of our lives I’m sure I had an easier time making friends. It’s about that time that we start putting our phones down. This will help to be more present with one another because everything you see on social media can be completely faked.
Conclusion to being emotionally disconnected
I think this has become a problem for a lot of us. So, if you think that you are alone when it comes to being emotionally disconnected from your community then think again! The more that social media stays in our lives and the more we give attention to our phones the less we are actually going to feel connected with one another. Something that might be able to help is journaling and being able to talk your feelings out. If you want to find some journals then you can find them here.
Hopefully, this post encourages you to get yourself out there and try to make some friends. If you actually do I would love to hear about it! Make sure to sign up for our newsletter! At a later time, I might write about my experiences with getting myself out there a little more.